Those of you who know me will know I’m an ambassador for multiple domestic abuse charities. I support female, male and disability abuse charities. I’m sick of seeing advice around ‘just leave them’.
For fucks sake stop spouting out this nonsense!!
Just leaving isn’t easy. Being broke, homeless and potentially losing a child isn’t for the faint hearted.
A carefully planned strategy that involves alienating anyone who ever knew both of you,is best. Standing alone will avoid you getting dragged into ‘family or friend parties’ and ‘family related’ activities. Abusers love to Hoover you up and use ‘family or close friends’ as a hook to keep you hanging on, don’t fall for it. It’s all nonsense.
They want to keep you close while enjoying their own world.
The people I support often fall for this only to end up in tears a year or so down the line.
Please don’t see this as a slur against those sensible people who can’t be together but can parent in a healthy way. That’s good and should be encouraged if it’s all ok.
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